On Being Married: Point and Counterpoint

My brother-in-law is looking for a bride.  When I found out, I naturally told him about Jodi365.  “Bhabhi,” he protested, “it’s not as if I am having a hard time finding someone.  I may be 32, but that is also not a problem.  The problem is that I don’t know if I am ready for marriage yet.  And I don’t want to marry just to make my parents happy.”

“I understand,” I said, “and am not going to try to change your mind about marriage.  Let me just tell you some of the things I love about being married.”  My husband joined us by this point and said, “I’ll see what I can add to that!”

“Okay, when you are in love, you are happy and feel like smiling all the time.”

My husband added, “But there will be testing times along the way and one test will be when you have to greet all the people at your wedding.  You will end up smiling so much that your cheekbones will hurt!”

I gave him a knowing look and continued, “When you are married, you feel more secure, knowing that your partner will always be with you.”

“But forget about having a glass of beer alone at a bar, because she will always be with you!”

“Ouch!” I said, even though I was guilty as charged.  Still, since it was all lighthearted bantering, I continued: “You get a ‘license’ to make love to your special someone anytime you want.”

“Yes, but that license comes with an invisible price tag: your freedom!”

Sensing my growing impatience, my husband offered a point instead of a counterpoint: “On the brighter side, you do get an alibi occasionally.”

At which point, I countered, “But transferring blame on your spouse doesn’t work all the time.  It might even backfire badly!”

The last word belonged to my husband, though, who repeated a Hindi saying, “Look, brother, marriage is the kind of sweet that people regret whether they’ve eaten it or not … so, you might as well eat it and then regret it!”


Editor’s note:

What is love? Watch how an elderly couple demonstrates it:

Jodi365: Find the right partner, at your own pace.

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